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Naivete and Narcissism - Not a Good Mix!

My daughter sent me an interesting article by Altheia Luna on why empathic people get caught up in so many dangerous relationships with narcissists. She writes,

"Like moths drawn to flames, us empaths seem to have a penchant for flying head-first into dangerous friendships and soul-sucking relationships that leave us feeling exhausted and unhinged. And yet, over and over again many of us fall into the same trap, often missing the vital life lessons being presented.

"Why is it that empaths and narcissists – two diametrically opposed types of people – feel an almost magnetic pull towards each other? There are many theories, but at the heart of it, I believe that it is Life’s way of restoring balance."

What??? She then accurately describes the narcissist as "highly charming and attractive, yet deeply uncaring, indifferent, self-centered and cruel. Put empaths and narcissists together? Both come in contact with their “inverted/reverse” selves, and both are forced to learn, grow and heal as a result of such an experience (although this doesn’t always happen immediately, but through trial and error)."

That Luna believes that both will learn and adjust flies in the face of all the clinical literature and is just naive, wishful thinking. The empath may learn and change, but not the narcissist! The narcissist, being already superior to everyone else, sees no need to change and rarely learns anything through mistakes to counter their actions . In reality, the narcissist sees the empathic, loving person as a weak target to be exploited and then discarded when its usefulness is finished. They form a symbiotic and twisted relationship that is toxically codependent.

The narcissist knows the causes and effects of his actions, and knows the damage that he or she does, but, as Sam Vaknin writes, "He simply does not care!" (Vaknin by his own admission has severe Narcissistic Personality Disorder and writes with an insider's view.)

With the narcissist, you need more than love!

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